Sleaze & Sexual Preferences

It took me a while before I could write a new post. I think the recession is for real, and nothing else could have excited me enough to write the next post. Sex can get you up, literally. And for what Shiney has done or not done, I think has a point or two to ponder upon.

India the land of Kamasutra and one of the oldest known countries acknowledging and celebrating sex in one's life is at the bottom heap of sexually pleased people. Irony indeed, but go to think of it and from the Kamasutra era and today a lot has changed, a lot. While we think over the SOP story (yes SOP & not SOB) of Shiney and his maid, this thing about SOP (will be elaborated later in the post) comes to the forefront.

Let's look at this carefully, SEX is a TABOO in India, even while I write this post I am actually looking around worried if any of my female colleagues would get a glimpse of me writing a post on Sleaze & Sex and tag me a sexual maniac. Nevertheless the point here is that since a child I have observed people discussing anything remotely close to sex in a hush-hush. My parents, relatives & every one else I grew up with would hush-hush all matters relating to sex to the extent of even flipping news channels reporting a rape case. The fact that I came from a middle class educated metropolitan family makes me wonder about the child bought up in villages. His ideology about sex and what sex construes to him is a mystery to me.

A broader look at reported sexual crimes in our country, will get to fore the fact that the strata which is largely involved in such crimes are people at the bottom of the income pyramid followed by ironically those in the top. The middle order just manages to lead a fairly less scandalous life.

Now lets visualize this, a lower income person staying in a 10 x 10 feet house loaded with kids, parents and some times relatives in transit, has remotely no possibility of sneaking in a sexual rendezvous with his or her beloved. How about a vacation then, vacation what does that spell like ? Haven't been able to visit the adjacent city for years now. So thats where it all ends up. Sex is that thing that the rich do, it's not for us, we had enough of it and the proof of it are our two, three kids. End of story for the ones at the bottom. All they are left with sexual flings in the crowded buses or trains with unknown strangers. Could well spill over to a rape or molestation as well sometimes.

Now the ones at the top of the income pyramid have everything that money can buy. Sex is a commodity for them. Can be bought off the shelf. It's easy come and easy go. The only two things that can spoil the party for them are, what if I just get caught making it out with a another lady / man / prostitute especially those who have any kind of societal recognition be it actors, politicians, bureaucrats, have this playing on the back of their mind, always. So though I can buy it, I refrain. And the second put off is the fact that you loose the sheen of something that is so easy to do. You have always bought or influenced sex through the power of your money, now its lost its excitement. I am over it. So I get into sexual experimentations which could spill over to a rape or molestation.

And the ones in the middle lead a lack lust-re sexual life. Maybe with a few sexual bouts outside commitments but cannot really afford to go over board on any thing. Have a family to take care of, EMI's to pay, fees to be paid, sex can come later. Lead a balanced sexual life & thats about it.

After all has been spoken & discussed its time to figure out what SOP is, Sexually Oppressed Personality, yes thats what it is. India can be largely categorized as a country crowded by sexually oppressed personalities. Though we might be slightly better off compared to the Afghanistan of the worlds but what the heck. For the country which has Kamasutra to its credit I think we can be much better off, sexually.

Introducing sex education in schools & colleges will help break the ice and should be supported thoroughly by us. And as responsible parents I think it's our duty to responsibly discuss matters related to sex with our kids and save them from becoming SOP's going ahead.

After all Bhagwan Rajneesh died advocating a more open attitude towards sexuality. In the case of sexual feelings, Osho believed that repression only makes these feelings re-emerge in another guise, and the final result was a society that was obsessed with sex. Instead of suppressing, Osho argued, people should trust and accept themselves unconditionally. " We have been repressing anger, greed, sex. And that's why every human being is stinking. Let it become manure and you will have great flowers blossoming in you".

With this quote I end this discourse ;)